When the answer to your prayer is definitely, “No.”

I am praying for good things, of course you will say Yes, right Lord?

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I have heard it said, God always answers our prayers.

His answer can be one of 3 things, Yes, No or Wait!  Have you heard this before?

I think I agree with this statement.  I just wish sometimes the answer is a little more clear.

The Yes answers are always easy to see.  They seem to make my heart sing.

I have even heard, Wait!  And I have been able to rejoice in the wait since in the long run it became a Yes!  So what about the No?

What do we do with the Nos?

I ask because I feel like sometimes I have accepted the No and been able to trust that my God knows what is best for me and the No has to be what is best. But some of the Nos have been very difficult to accept.

What do we do with the Nos that we don’t understand?

I have found that the root of the issue is not the answer but rather if my heart truly believes that God is good and He has good plans for me.

I have had some BIG Nos in my life~

  • Heal my mom & allow me to grow up with my mommy by my side.  
  • Heal my husband & restore my marriage and let us serve you together the rest of our lives. 
  • Heal my Daddy and keep me from having to let go and not watch him disappear before my eyes. 
  • Heal my infertility & grant me the honor of being a mom.

Each BIG No I get brings me back to this place.  Do I trust my Father in heaven to do what is best for me even when I don’t think that it is?

To be honest sometimes I struggle with this.  I am so thankful that I have years of His faithfulness to remind me I do trust Him.  He is good.

When the struggles are big I also have to ask my father to give me more faith like the man in  Mark 9:24. “Immediately the father of the child cried out and said, “I believe; help my unbelief!” (NAS)  Lord, just Help my unbelief!

This prayer is one I have always had answered with a BIG YES!  He holds me and encourages me.  And in a season, I find the strength to again say, I know you love me and have my best at heart.

 What prayers have the answer from your Father been No?  What have you found has helped you to accept that No?


Matthew 7:9-11, “Or what man is there among you who, when his son asks for a loaf, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, he will not give him a snake, will he? If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give what is good to those who ask Him!” (NASB)

God is Calling

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I clutched my chest in pain; it’s my heart.

I can hardly breathe . . .

Is this it Lord, is it time to come home already?   I thought I was called to do more?

I have always felt that the Lord had a special calling on my life.

Since I was the only one who attended church in my family I always felt that the Lord had worked especially hard to draw me to himself.  His saving grace has always encouraged me to honor and praise Him in all that I do.

Walking closely with the Lord

As I have shared in other posts, life has brought its share of heartache and stressors but I have always found the Lord to be faithful. (Read more at https://takeheartcoaching.com/making-the-lord-my-best-friend/)  I found hope in His precious scriptures and in the peace that only He could bring.

Praying for guidance

At each cross road in my life I faced it with prayer and a heart’s desire to do that which I felt the Lord was telling me.  As a teenager I had sensed a calling to serve the Lord as a preacher’s wife, so when I met and married my first husband I thought that was my life long ministry.  But when my marriage ended I was unsure how I was to serve now.

Serving when and where ever I can.

I have served as a nursery worker, Small group Bible Study Leader, Women’s Ministry coordinator, and even Financial Peace University Facilitator.  I have enjoyed wearing many hats since the pastor’s wife hat was removed.

Then I had elective surgery.

I had torn my ACL (ligament) in my knee years before playing volleyball.  I decided to have it fixed, I wasn’t getting any younger and it was getting weaker.  Surgery went very well and I was on the mend.  Two weeks after surgery, I had worked too long and my knee was really screaming at me. I finally made it home to rest.  Suddenly, I had terrible chest pain and felt that I could not take a breath.  I was really scared.  I had never experienced anything like this before.

As I stood up, I became lightheaded and passed out.

Once I made it to the hospital I found out that I had a saddle pulmonary embolism (a blood clot).  The blood clot had passed through my heart chambers causing the pain and then got stuck right where the two major arteries split and go into the two lungs.

I should not have survived.

The clot blocked 5 major arteries, which was why I could not stay conscious when I was upright.  Lying on my back the blood could pass through to the lungs and it needed to stay right where it was.  If it moved at all, I would not make it.  As I spent the next 8 days in the hospital, doctors would come by to meet me because they had never seen a person still alive who had a blood clot as large as mine.  Over and over again I was told that I was a miracle.

I knew it wasn’t me that was the miracle, God saved me.

Once I realized the seriousness of what had happened it began to hit me.  God was not done with me yet, there was more here on earth for me to do.  The feeling that God saved me for something more was clearly placed on my heart.  I don’t feel that I completely understand what it is He still has for me yet but I am ready when He reveals it to me.


Until then I will do everything I can to glorify His name in every way every day.  Serving in the small stuff or just the daily life stuff is important and that is what I try to do each day.

Do you feel called?  How do you live your calling?

Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not people, because you know that the Lord will reward each one for whatever good they do, whether they are slave or free.

Ephesians 6:7-8 (NIV)

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