4 Tips for Embracing Goodbyes and Fresh Starts
January is the time of fresh starts. Many people enjoy a fresh start, I’m not sure that I am one of them.
To me a fresh start means letting go of what has been normal or at least the known, it might not have been great, or bad, or good, maybe just somewhere in between but it was known and I like that.
Starting things new always leaves me feeling concerned. Will I be able to do it? Will I like it as well as the old way? Will I miss what I have done before? These are just a few questions that lead to my concern.
I have learned strategies to help me leave the concerns behind and embrace the new:
1. Watch my question/thinking-
The questions we ask ourselves can determine what direction our thoughts go so we need to be aware of those questions. (See Question Thinking for more)
When I am feeling concerned about changes I ask myself questions that will help me to see all the possibilities in the new situation. I also make sure that I don’t allow myself to dwell on the questions that lead down the path of what if. Stay in the here and now so as not to get stuck in a pit of despair.
2. Have a Thankful Heart-
We know from brain research that we see more of what we are looking for. When our focus is on all the blessings in our lives we see even more of them. They are there whether we are looking for them or not.
So during a change, I try to take the time to be even more intentional in focusing on all I have to be thankful for.
If you need some help with this one check out my Review by Rayna on The Kindness Challenge. It is a great read.
3. Consult Wise Counsel-
Proverbs 11:14 tells us “Without good direction, people lose their way; the more wise counsel you follow, the better your chances.” (The Message)
I’m so thankful for friendships and mentor relationships that poor into my life! I encourage you to take a look at the relationships in your life that pour into you. Be sure you have a council of wise souls to walk with you through life and especially change.
Yep, you probably knew this would be on the list. When I take the time to listen in prayer then I am always more ready to embrace new.
The Lord is faithful to meet us where we are and guide us to where He has for us to go. Seeking His counsel is most important and impactful in my life.
So change is here.
A new season has dawned my childhood home is being sold.
The place I spent 43 years calling home.
The place I grew up.
The place I played dolls, studied my spelling words, shot baskets and mowed the grass.
The place I spent hours with my Mom listening to music and caring for her.
The place I enjoyed ping pong, baseball and loving my Dad well until his last breath will soon be someone else’s home.
When I think about another family making great memories in our home it makes me smile.
I am so thankful for all that 18605 E 28th Street South meant to me and my family and I pray it will be a blessing to them also.
As I am grieving this one more loss, I am trying to stay focused on the blessings of now! I have wonderful memories of a great childhood, lots of hugs and kisses, and a home that has been there for a really long time. More importantly, I have a home with Farmer, filled with love, laughter, and many memories as well.
I will never forget the old but I am focusing forward on all the blessings yet to come.
Goodbyes are not easy no matter what kind they are but they do open up room for Hellos!
So I’m moving on in anticipation of what 2019 will bring- thanks to thinking right, being grateful, and consulting wise friends and of course my Lord.