Finding HOPE While Living with Loss
Loss has visited close to home recently. From a good friend who lost her mom to a dear friend who lost her battle with cancer. Loss is difficult for everyone.
How do we find hope in the midst of loss is a difficult question to struggle with? I have experienced hope during loss in a couple of different ways.
Sometimes there is hope even after loss when there is also new life.
The birth of my grandkids brought some hope even in the season of grieving the loss of my own children through miscarriage.
Their little lives brought joy and laughter even through the time of sadness. I have also had a new a new dog bring hope and comfort when I have lost my best dog friend.
Most often I have experienced hope after loss through encounters with my Loving Father. Some of the greatest losses in my life have been followed by hope filled experiences with God’s love.
When my mom passed away, though she had been sick for 12 years, it seemed like a shock. I was not ready to let her go.
She died on a Saturday evening and the next morning while worshiping and grieving during church service, God blessed me with the reminder that Mom was worshiping that morning too.
She had been nonverbal for at least the last 8 years of her life (due to Alzheimer’s disease) so the thought of her standing at the feet of Jesus singing praises to Him face to face brought amazing comfort and joy.
The grief was made more bearable with the reminder of where she was that morning and for eternity yet to come.
The second time I experienced God’s great comfort was just a couple of years ago, when I was still struggling with the grief of losing my only children by miscarriage.
It was a difficult struggle for years, there were so many unanswered questions. Why would the Lord let me get pregnant only to lose my children before they ever got to take their first breath and experience my love for them.
I had so many hopes and dreams. Being a mom had been the desire of my heart for as long as I could remember.
Again, the Lord graciously reminded me that their death was not the end of their life. They were safe with Him and my Mom in heaven. When that truth came to me the overwhelming peace that followed was beyond description.
I had struggled for so long with questions and confusion regarding this loss but all of that became unimportant. They were ok and I would meet them someday, peace & hope replaced all the anger and confusion that had just been there.
Today as I grieve the passing of my friend and grieve the disappearing of my dad, I find hope in the character of God. I know that God is Good.
I know that God loves me no matter what happens in this life, and that truth motivates me to hold on to HOPE today and the many days to come.
How do you find Hope, even in the midst of grief?
How does what you believe change your everyday life?
Do you believe in Santa Claus? Do you believe in happily ever after? Do you believe in God’s word?
How you answer each of these questions will change the way you live.
If you believe in Santa you will get better gifts, or so I hear. If you believe in happily ever after you might work harder to invest your marriage so it is happy. If you believe in God’s word you will know His character and how He feels about you and that will change everything.
Believe has two different definitions: one means to accept (something) as true; feel sure of the truth of something the second on is to hold (something) as an opinion; think or suppose. Even how you believe something will change your life.
Believing something is truth versus an opinion are worlds apart.
Sometimes experiencing hard times can mess with your believing. Things have been difficult with Dad lately.
He is experiencing some new physical issues that have left him very tired and often even more confused. Sadly, with those feelings he is very agitated and can be unkind. My dad has always been a gentleman, kind and respectful. It is very difficult to see him like this, not to mention being the person he is unkind to.
My heart has been saddened and heavy. As I spilled my heart out to God about how hard this season with Dad is, He asked me, “Rayna, do you still believe I am good?”
This was a question I struggled with years ago when my first marriage came to an end. It was so hard to understand how I could be experiencing this when it was the last thing I wanted.
How could God let this happen?
With this question came some exploring of God’s character. Was it about Him letting this happen or was it really, could God still be good if this is His will for my life?
Struggling with this core belief has changed how I live.
Being rooted in the truth that God is Good helps me to respond to hard times with hope and peace.
When our house burned down, God is Good.
When my dog dies, God is Good.
When I get an, “I love you, Graham.” from Owen, God is Good.
When the harvest is abundant, God is Good.
When the crops are destroyed by flood, God is Good.
When my Dad is struggling and not nice, God is still Good.
What are you believing about God that needs a closer look? How can you move your belief from opinion to truth?
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“If you wish to know God, you must know his Word. If you wish to perceive His power, you must see how He works by his Word. If you wish to know His purpose before it comes to pass, you can only discover it by His Word.” (C.H. Spurgeon)