Reviews by Rayna: War Room

War Room is a powerful movie full of truth and challenge.

This FB_IMG_1441724138048movie is about an affluent young couple who appear to have it all.  When you look deeper you see that their marriage is crumbling from neglect and bitterness.  Elizabeth is a real-estate agent while Tony is a top pharmaceutical salesman.  They have a lovely young daughter who is seeing and feeling the stress long before her parents realize it.  Everything begins to change when Elizabeth signs on to sell Miss Clara’s house and finds a friend like she has never had before.  You will fall in love with Miss Clara.  She is a truth speaking, feisty elderly lady who knows how to pray.

Miss Clara speaks truth to Elizabeth both about her heart and her marriage.  She shares how things changed in her heart when she actually started praying and listening.   This movie is an amazing call to power and reminder that there is power in prayer.  My heart was encouraged by this movie and I think yours will be also.

If you haven’t seen it yet you might want to stop here and go see it. The rest will spoil the story for you.

Here are 6 truths and challenges I walked away with.

  1. Heavy Lifting is NOT my Job: Clara tells Elizabeth that God told her it wasn’t her job to do the heavy lifting.  God could take care of that if she would just be faithful to pray.  Are there things in your life in which you are doing it all on your own…. Are you doing the heavy lifting?  Let go and let God.
  2. My Loved Ones Relationship with the Lord is NOT my job: Clara also told Elizabeth that sometimes submission means learning to duck so the Lord can knock your husband upside the head.  I have been there and heard the Lord tell me that before.  So many times we are so busy trying to be in charge that we are just in the way of letting the one we love hear from God.
  3. My love Ones Deserve the Grace and Forgiveness of God as Much as I Do: Clara asked Elizabeth to list all the things she could think of that Tony had done wrong. After writing 3 pages, Clara stopped her and said, “In light of these things, does God still love Tony?” Elizabeth answers yes.  So Clara asks, “Does Tony deserve grace?” That one is a little harder for Elizabeth to answer so Miss Clara asks her, “Do you?”  It is so much easier for us to think that we deserve God’s love and forgiveness than it is to think others do.  What can you do to help to keep a loving and forgiving towards those around you?
  4. There is Only Room for One on the Throne Of My Life: Clara also reminds Elizabeth there is not room for you and God on the throne.  You are going to have to step down.  Is there an area in your life right now that you need to step down and let God take the thrown?  How can you do that?  What will keep you from jumping right back up on the throne?
  5. Contentment in the Lord Changes Everything: One of my favorite scenes was when Elizabeth finally got it.  She went walking through her home telling Satan he had to get out.  She told him you have to get out of my house, my marriage, and my family in Jesus name.  She declared Jesus was her contentment.  When she found contentment in the Lord it changed everything.  Do you have contentment in your life?  How can you get it?
  6. I am Blessed to Have a Man Who Loves the Lord and I Need to Pray for Him: Elizabeth finally reached a place in her relationship with the Lord and Tony that she was able to tell Tony, “I would rather have a man chasing Jesus than a house full of stuff.”  Does your man know that?  Does he understand how much you value his relationship with the Lord?  Are you praying for him, that He would love the Lord with all His heart?

I hope these truths and challenges will encourage you.  I would love to hear what you took away from this great film!  Please leave a comment below!  Blessings!

The Blessing of a Spounse!

The blessing of a spouse!

Most of us longed to find the person who would love us the rest of our life.  My dream like most was to grow up, get married and have kids.  As I have shared before I was married right out of college and it was a very long difficult 10 years and I did not get my happily ever after.

But when I saw this quote by Max Lucado I loved it.  It is easy for time to go by and for us to forget what a treasure we have in our spouse. Life is busy, the chores of  running a house and making a living can easily distract you from the importance of valuing your spouse.  Showing your deep passion and loving them in the middle of it all will make a difference.

Proverbs 18:22

“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD”

 

The farmer and I have been married almost 6 years now and I have found my happily ever after.  I am so thankful that I have done a better job of never letting my love for him go unspoken.  I have treasured him and told him about it daily.  I have proudly kept him a priority.  As I have done all these things he has been doing them as well.

Marriage is a beautiful partnership.  Having someone to love and serve the Lord with is a dream come true.  The death of a marriage is a very difficult time in anyone’s life.  But like in all things God’s love never weavers.  He is still faithful and will love and support you through it.  There is hope.

 

What are some of the most important things you have found to you help keep your spouse a treasured priority in your life?

Want more happiness? Try Gratitude

You have got to be kidding me. How in the world did he get mud all over the carpet?

I had planned ahead and had him take his shoes off while I ran upstairs to get another pair.  Really, he can find the dirty shoes and put them back on before I make it back down with the new shoes.  You have got to be kidding me…..

 

This is just an example of a frustrating event that really happened on a recent w20140712_105218eekend with my dad.  Alzheimer’s is such an unfair disease.  This is an obvious statement I know, but it is becoming more and more a part of life with my dad.  Dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease 9 years ago.

 

I have been traveling for 18 months, spending 3 days per week with my dad, caring for him in his home.  He is in great physical shape but the mental decline is getting trickier for me to deal with.

 

I am more than capable of problem solving situations like the one above, it is just that sometimes you think you have to handled it only to have him do something unexpected .  You often never dream he would do the things that he does.  Especially when moments before he could be totally lucid and can do something like tell you what time it is or ask you how work is going.

 

There are many reasons why my husband and I have chosen to have me spend almost half the week away from home.  The most important one to me was to keep my dad at home and to enjoy the time I have left with him.

 

I have noticed in the last month it was becoming increasingly more difficult to enjoy the time I have with him.  As I stepped back to examine this, explore why and pray about how to change it, the muddy shoes happened.  We had attempted to work in the yard doing very similar tasks as we did about this time last year.  The adventure was not near as successful this year as it was last.

 

My dad’s ability to understand and be helpful has significantly declined.  Yes, that is what Alzheimer’s is, a disease of decline.  But like all things that change gradually we often don’t see the change until something happens that calls our attention to it.  So yes, he has changed.  Now how do I adjust?

Gratitude.  Don’t you love it when God has you working on something He is really wanting you to learn not just in your head but in your heart and life?  Gratitude!  I have been researching and thinking a lot about Gratitude in preparation for the 21 Day Gratitude Challenge which starts June 22nd, 2015!

 

To be present with my dad and not to allow the heart ache of what he can no longer do affect my time with him, I must focus on where he is now, not what he was.  I feel I have done this pretty well up until now.  But that is not enough because those things which he can do are more limited than ever.

 

Now, I have to move into being grateful for him and the time with him.  Not because of what he can or can’t do but for the amazing person he is and was.

 

The key to having gratitude make an impact on your life is to truly stay focused on what you have.  It is so easy to look at a situation and fall into the land of comparison in order to find things to be thankful for.  True gratitude is focused on what you have in that moment.

 

As I have immersed myself in gratitude I have found more peace in the moments of life with dad.  I am so thankful God has shown me how gratitude makes life better.  

 

Dad’s illness has not improved but my heart of gratitude has helped me to handle it with more love, grace and peace.

 

For gratitude to impact your world you have to practice the art of gratitude daily.  Are you ready to learn to live in gratitude too?

There are many different studies on gratitude and its impact on the lives of those in the study.  The studies I used in creating this challenge had people express their gratitude in different ways, so the 21 Day Challenge offers 3 of these activities for you to choose from each day.

 

1.        The 3 Blessings exercise.  It was created by Robert Emmons, at the end of the day you are to list the 3 things, big or small, that you consider being a positive experience from the day.  Taking the time to evaluate the day and finding a least 3 things to record in a journal can have a great positive impact on your life.

2.       Say more Thank You more.  Take the time to write Thank You notes to those in your live who you might not always remember to thank.  There are tons of people in our lives that make life easier and better, so be sure to take the time to say thanks in a concrete form.  You might also make it a point to offer a verbal Thank You to those you run into in your daily life.  Thank the cashier, barista, the man who stopped to open the door for you and even the family member who does something nice for you.  Taking time to express your appreciation will help you find things to be grateful for in your everyday life.

3.       Stop & Smell the Roses.  Stop for 30 seconds, take in all the good around you and then offer a prayer of Thanksgiving! Literally stop and smell the beautiful scents of nature around you, whether you are in your kitchen cooking up a quick meal or outside on your way to your car to or from an errand, be mindful in the moment.  Express your gratitude to the Lord right then and there!

Practicing Gratitude for 21 Days will put you on track to establishing a new habit. 

 

I am so glad you have learned how to focus on gratitude.  Though you might not be able to participate in my 21 Day Gratitude Challenge you can always do one of your own.   I would love to hear how it goes.  Leave a comment below.  Thanks, Rayna

 

Pin It on Pinterest