3 Things I Learned from Abigail’s Extravagant Obedience to God

As a young woman who wanted to love the Lord our God with all my heart, mind, soul and strength I struggled with the concept of submitting to my husband.  Not because I rebelled against submission as some do but rather I struggled with checking my mind, convictions and common sense at the door so to speak in order to submit.

I married while still in college and desired more than anything to join my husband in loving and serving the Lord in our marriage.Matthew 22: 37-9

Sadly, though he did not spend the majority of our 10-year marriage submitting to the Lord.  His selfishness and rebellion made our years together difficult rather than being filled with blessing we experienced trials and struggles.

I tried to be quiet and follow but I bet if you asked him he didn’t see it that way.  I felt the need to express my opinions but always gave in to his leadership in the end.  Our marriage did not survive.

I am remarried and one of the things I spent much time in prayer about before marrying again was submission.  I was thankful the Lord helped me understand His heart for marriage and submission as I sought him.

Just recently I read about Abigail and Nabal.  It was good to have a reminder of those things which God had taught me years ago about a marriage relationship.

3 Things I learned from Abigail’s Extravagant Obedience to God in Numbers 25

  1. Abigail was a woman of great worth apart from her husband….

His name was Nabal and his wife’s name was Abigail. She was an intelligent and beautiful woman, but her husband was surly and mean in his dealings—he was a Calebite.”

It really stood out to me how valuable Abigail was to be highlighted in the Old Testament.  As a young wife I did not find myself in a relationship that valued me or my thoughts.  I ended up losing myself and forgetting my value.  I became unhealthy in the struggle of caring for my husband.  At one point of brokenness and pain I was poured out my needs to the Lord, He assured me that He loved ME and I was worth DYING for.  I had forgotten that.

  1. Abigail knew God and honored Him even when her husband did not…..

18 Abigail acted quickly. She took two hundred loaves of bread, two skins of wine, five dressed sheep, five seahs of roasted grain, a hundred cakes of raisins and two hundred cakes of pressed figs, and loaded them on donkeys.”

As soon as Abigail heard that Nabal had sent David’s men away with insult she jumped into action.  Her drastic response to her husband’s foolishness was eye opening.  In that day and age, she definitely took her life in her hands by honoring David even when Nabal did not.  Her quick action brought a blessing from David instead of the revenge he was on his way to extract on Nabal and all those he was responsible for.

  1. Abigail was blessed in her obedience…..

35 Then David accepted from her hand what she had brought him and said, “Go home in peace. I have heard your words and granted your request.”

It can be confusing at times when it appears that scripture contradicts itself.  After all Ephesians 5:22 states clearly “ Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.”  Obviously, Abigail did not do that.

I think that God is clear, we are to follow the first commandment always and all the others after that.  If we are being asked by our husband, father, boss or anyone to break the first commandment which Christ told us in Matthew 22:37-9 “ Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment.  And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.   All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” 

I was blessed and encouraged by the reminder of Abigail and her actions in Numbers.  I don’t spend a lot of time looking back to find things I would change or regrets in my life rather I look to learn and do better today.

In my marriage today I am thankfully I have not had the struggles of submitting to my husband in areas that I know are not God’s will for us.  But even as I read of Abigail I am encouraged to Love my Lord and my Husband well!

What are your thoughts about Abigail’s actions?  Have you ever experienced a time when you had to follow the first commandment rather than submit to someone in authority?

Who is Celebrating You?

Birthdays are so much fun when we are kids, aren’t they?  Everyone makes such a big deal of it.

You get to have your friends over and you get to do anything that you want since it’s your party and your Big day.

Then we grow up.  GOD told them, “I’ve never quit loving you and never will. Expect love, love, and more love! Jeremiah 31-3 the Message

Life gets busy and as adults there might not be someone who thinks to throw you a Birthday party, and life definitely isn’t all about you like it was when you were little.

I just had my birthday this last week.  I was blessed to have a few small celebrations with family.  Mainly getting to pick where we went to eat and enjoying splurges from the menu like appetizers and dessert.  I was also blessed with beautiful cards and gifts!  I felt loved and appreciated which is what Birthdays have come to mean to me as an adult!

But I do think Facebook has made adult Birthdays more fun again!  It was amazing to receive birthday wished throughout the day.  Yes, it was just a normal day as far as responsibilities and the busyness of life but it was fun to hear the well wishes and blessings from friends and family online.

The feelings of love and appreciation got me thinking about how our Lord feels about ME every day.

We know from scripture that He created us in our mother’s womb when no one else was even aware of what He was up to. (Psalm 139:13) He made us just as He wanted us to be.

Giving us the special gifts and talents He needed us to have to impact this world the way He wants us to.

Jesus doesn’t send us greeting cards with just the right words of love and adoration or even give us wrapped gifts on our Birthdays but He loved us first, loves more than we can fathom, and showers us with gifts that we too often don’t even notice.

Take the time today to celebrate the love of our Lord.  Notice the many gifts He gives you, gifts wrapped in many unique ways. 

If you are having trouble seeing Him and His love, then just ask.  Our Father wants us to know and understand His love.  He will tell you how He feels about you….  Really Just ask!

God told them, “I’ve never quit loving you and never will.
Expect love, love, and more love!    Jeremiah 31:3 the Message

I would love for you to share what you hear about how you know you are loved and treasured by our Lord by commenting below.

Without God life is chaos.

I know you have heard a sermon on Proverbs 29:18, we all have.

“Where there is no vision, the people perish”

Did you know that there is a second part to this verse?

“but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.” 

My pastor, Cody Busby, did a great job of preaching on the full verse this morning.  The vision has to come from the Word of God in order for there to be salvation.  The blessing of hearing and living by the word is the part we often overlook.  We all want the happy part but are we willing to be faithful to do what the word instructs us to?

Cody ended his sermon with a challenge that really struck a cord in my heart.   Read the following two statements and fill in the blanks honestly.  The obvious answers come from this verse…….. what are the answers that come to your heart and mind?

Proverbs 29:18

Without ________ life is chaos.

With God life is ____________.

Cody Busby

Pastor, First Baptist Church Mulvane

Here are a few of my honest answers.

Without God life is chaos.  Without purpose life is chaos.  Without my farmer life is chaos.  Without family life is chaos.  Without money life is chaos.  Without a home life is chaos.

With God life is blessed.  With God life is doable.  With God life is worth living.  With God life is still hard.  With God life is joyful.  With God life is fulfilling.

Now do your own check up……

How would you fill in the blanks of these statements?

Ready or not Christmas is here in 46 days!

Ready or Not Christmas is Here in less than 46 Days!

     What feelings do you experience when you hear that Christmas will be here in no time?

Dread, excitement, shock, exhaustion……

Christmas is meant to bring us joy!  I hope that it does when you have a chance to take a deep breathe and think about it.  If there are any negative emotions associated with how you feel about this special holiday. I have a great resource for you.

Get Yourself Organized for Christmas:  Simple Steps to Enjoying the Season by Kathi Lipp  

Get Yourself Organized for Christmas is a quick read, which is jam packed with lots of great ideas.  One of the best concepts from Kathi’s book is the Christmas Binder.

When I taught 4th grade I required all my students to have one notebook.  It made all of life easier.  There was never a questions where their math paper, spelling words or planner was.  Everything was supposed to live in their notebook.  All of these concepts ring true for a Christmas Binder too.

Kathi recommends you put everything in your Christmas Binder.  From a budget (for all your holiday purchases), to all the recipes you will need (from the big day to all the parties you will attend).

Just like a school binder you will want to include dividers with all the sections labeled.  Kathi goes into great detail in the book about what she recommends you should include in your binder.

Get Yourself Organized for Christmas also has great tips and tricks to organizing your priorities.  Christmas can be such a busy time, there are so many things to do.  School concerts, parties, family Christmases, and don’t forget shopping for gifts.

Kathi encourages you to stop and consider what activities bring you joy and which ones bring you stress.  She then gives you permission to decide if you want to continue to do them or not.

Family traditions are important but we often take the joy out of the holiday by trying to keep up with all the traditions we have adopted over the years.  Having a heart to heart with your family can give you insight into what traditions are really important to everyone and which ones you might have out grown.

Now is the time to start preparing for the best Christmas ever, so be sure to pick up the book now and get started getting organized today!

You can purchase the book at Amazon.

Get Yourself Organized for Christmas:  Simple Steps to Enjoying the Season by Kathi Lipp  

Fear Was Overtaking My Focus

When was the last time you were distracted, totally freaked out and incapable of accomplishing the task set before you? Just a few weeks ago I was right there; totally overwhelmed, frustrated and distracted by my environment.  I couldn’t accomplish the task at hand!

I was driving my regular 220 mile trip to Kansas City to stay with dad, when I had a tire blowout!  That was scary.  When I got out of the car to look at the flat, of course it had to be the drive side back tire.

I drove a short distance to find a safe place to change the tire but there was no such thing.  I had to just do it!  When I got out, I was discouraged even more, there was only five feet between my tire and the white line.  Not to mention the cars and trucks were flying by at more than 75 miles per hour shaking my car as they passed.

I got the jack and tire iron out to try to break the lug nuts loose.  I don’t know when the last time was you changed a tire but holy cow those things are on tight.

As I struggle to loosen the lug nuts I could hear trucks and cars coming toward me and I would look up in fear.  I was not able to focus on what I was doing.

I got back in my car and call my husband and he gave me some tips to get the tire iron to stay on the lug nuts in order to be able to loosen them so I got up my courage and got out of the car again.

I took a deep breath and said to myself, I can do this, I can do this.

As I bent over to start trying again and another car came flying by, I just couldn’t focus.  

I was so distracted, I kept looking up and thinking of all the terrible things that can happen if a car or truck were to come over the 5 feet and hit me.

Then I realized I can’t do this… I can’t do this if I’m worried about getting hit by a truck.

 Finally, I just said, “OK, Lord you got this, you know what’s coming and you know what’s going to happen, so I’m just going to trust you! You have got my back and I’m going to focus on the tire.”

This scripture came to mind (not word for word but I remembered reading it not too long ago),”Both riches and honor come from You, and You rule over all, and in Your hand is power and might; and it lies in Your hand to make great and to strengthen everyone.”  1 Chronicles 29:12

Then I put my head down and I focused on breaking those lug nuts.  I did it!  I thanked the Lord and went to work on the next one!

Just about that time a nice gentleman finally stopped to help me.  It was so wonderful to have someone take it care of it for me.  Trusting God first then praising Him for providing some much needed help.

As I reflect on that experience I think about how easy it is to be distracted by all the what ifs in life; what if I don’t succeed, what if this doesn’t work, what if I don’t get the job,  what ifs and fears are around us every day.

Here are a couple of things I do to quiet the what ifs….

Memorize Scripture. Here are just a few scriptures to help you remember God’s sovereignty.

Proverbs 16:9 “The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.”

Genesis 50:20 “As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today.”

Second Chronicles 20:6 “O Lord, God of our fathers, are you not God in heaven? You rule over all the kingdoms of the nations. In your hand are power and might, so that none is able to withstand you.”

Take a deep breath and look at your situation from a different perspective.

WebMD.com states, “Deep breathing is one of the best ways to lower stress in the body. This is because when you breathe deeply, it sends a message to your brain to calm down and relax.”  When we are able to calm down and relax it gives us time to let the truth of scriptures come to mind.  This can give us God’s perspective and help us to focus on the here and now not the what ifs.

There are always a million things that could go wrong but we serve a God who knows it all!  We serve a God who loves us more than we can even understand!  He knows what our future holds so as we start to focus in on the task that he has given us, we can trust him to take care of everything else.


What do you do to quiet the What Ifs?  How are you trusting God to take care of things you can’t fix, things you can’t control or tasks set before you? 

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