Why Her? :6 Truths We Need to Hear When Measuring Up Leaves Us Falling Behind
Comparison seems to be a natural state for us. We often find ourselves comparing ourselves to others without even realizing that is what we are doing. Questions like, “Why Her, Lord?” “Must be nice!” “Why Never ME!” as well as more settle questions are “What so wrong with us? Questioning our worth, evening doubting God” are at the root questions of comparison.
Nicki Kuziri, the author, states, “we love to shout our success but seldom share own secret sorrows. But the more honest we can become about the areas that threaten our souls the most the sooner we will feel empowered enough to escape the comparison chase.”
Nicki shares 6 truths we need to hear when measuring up leaves us falling behind using the stories of her own life and that of Leah and Rachel in the Genesis to illustrate. The 6 truths are: 1) You Need to be Honest 2) See It Like It Really Is 3) You Don’t Have to be Okay 4) You Didn’t Do Anything Wrong 5) Her Gain is Not Your Loss 6) Let the Success of Others Encourage, Not Discourage You.
Throughout this book, Nicki explores how comparison affects our lives but most importantly our relationship with the Lord. She states “this isn’t just a me struggle, it is a God struggle.” Further explaining a God struggle as a struggle that goes against the grain of who He created you to be.
Nicki’s goal is for the reader to move toward becoming transparent about what causes us to compare ourselves with others for it will keep us from needing to compare ourselves to others at all. Oh that we all might get to this place.