It can’t be the end….

This is the end; things haven’t been good for a while but it didn’t mean that I was expecting that phone call.  A phone call from my husband’s girlfriend?   Who sees that coming?   I sure didn’t. 2 Let the redeemed of the Lord tell their story— those he redeemed from the hand of the foe, (1)

He had cheated before and I knew things hadn’t been good but I never dreamed he would cheat again.  The Lord and I had been talking a lot about my marriage and I knew a big change was coming.   I just didn’t know that this was it.

Me divorced; of all the people you know I would not be the one you expect to be divorced.  I was deeply saddened but I knew now, this is the path I was to go down.

But how do I live like this?  How do I hold my head high and tell people I’m divorced?  Divorce is for people who gave up on there a marriage, not me. I fought, I fought for almost 10 years to make this marriage work.  I forgave the first affair.  How was I supposed to live divorced?

It felt like such a failure.

As time went on and I moved into a new phase of life it was difficult, it was embarrassing.   But I knew I had been released from my covenant of marriage.  I just didn’t know how to communicate that to others.  I knew how judgmental I had been regarding divorce, I just hated for people to look at me like that.

Then I met Alice.

Alice attended the church that I was attending.  We met in small group setting where she shared her testimony.  I will never forget what a blessing it was to meet Alice.  She was a few years older than me and she was happily married to her second husband.

Alice was an amazing, godly woman who had a testimony and ministry in our church.  She loved people and she loved her husband.  Because she was willing to share her story of divorce and remarriage I found hope.  Hope that I would have a ministry again too.

I also had hope that there might be a happily ever after marriage in my life someday.

Today when people meet my husband and I they never guess that we’ve only been married for 6 short years.  We fit together like a hand and glove or salt and pepper.  We love each other dearly and you are able to be committed and live what a godly marriage looks.

Marriage today is easy, unlike in my first marriage that was always very difficult.  Sometimes it is hard to say I’m thankful that the Lord took me through that, but I know that I am the person I am today because of that journey.

I cherish my husband now.  I honor and respect him.  I’m so thankful to have an opportunity to have a marriage like I do today.  

I hope and pray that as I share my story through this blog that I will be an encouragement to you.  That you will know that no matter how hard life seems, no matter how unfair things are and no matter what happens to you …even when you think it’s something that could never happen to you.  You can move past it, you can, there’s hope!

Our God is sovereign, he loves us more than you know and his plans are perfect!  Trust Him and walk close beside Him through this time to the life you didn’t know could exist.

If you are still searching for hope and a relationship with the Lord who loves you more than you know please reach out to me.  I would love to talk with you about Him.

Have You Accepted the Free Gift?

I love gifts, how about you?

If you have studied love languages at all then you might know if your love language is gifts or not.

Mine isn’t but I still love to get them.  No matter if gifts fill your love tank or not the Gift of Jesus will!

It is so amazing to me that God choose to send the gift of His Son to earth to save us.  It seems so easy yet it is so hard for many to accept….  Have you accepted God’s Gift?

What is it about accepting gifts that makes it hard?


I find it easy to accept a gift from someone I love and who loves me.  It can get a little awkward when I don’t know the person well.  Could that be part of the hang up?

Do you know God? Have you studied Him and understand how much He loves you?

If you have and would like to learn more I would love to talk with you.  Just contact me at


Where is My Miracle?

Lord, I need your help!  I don’t know what to do.

My husband (ex now) had suffered another devastating bought of depression.  He had not been able to work for 9 months.  This was a crisis, without a doubt.  I did all that I could in order to put one foot in front of another each day.  I continued to pray, asking for a miracle.

I had no idea how we would be able to pay the bills again this month even though I was working 3 jobs now.  I had to trust God to provide for us in a way I had not had to before.

I wish this crisis had a happily ever after ….  the depression lifted but we continued to struggle. I did the best I could to obey the Lord and repay all that we had borrowed.

Eventually I was able pay off the mountain of debt we accumulated but it was not without 5 years of hard work. It would have been nice if the miracle had come and I didn’t have to pay the price of our choices.  That just isn’t how God works most of the time.  He did continue to be faithful.  I am thankful His presence was never absent in this crisis or the many more to come.

Psalm 37:21

“The wicked borrows but does not pay back, but the righteous is generous ….”

Wisdom leads to hope

 Prov 24 14How is your soul?  Are you in need of wisdom?

I find wisdom when I take the time to get alone with Lord and really listen.  I read the Word daily but I don’t always remember to take the time to listen.  James 1:5 reminds us that God has wisdom for those who lack it when we ask for it.

James 1:5 “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.”

Hearing the Lord speak wisdom quietly to my heart always brings hope.  I love finding scripture that puts words to the truth of an experience I have had with the Lord.  Knowing that wisdom from the Lord feeds our soul and gives us the hope for the future that we need in the middle of the changing season of life.  Transitions in life are very difficult and knowing this truth can help you hold to the hope only God can provide.


Can you think of a time when the Lord gave you the wisdom you needed?  

And God Comes Through in a BIG Way!

My laptop has just toppled onto the floor as my pug jumped barking off the chair we were sharing.  Oh man, please let it be OK was my first thought.

As I picked it up to look and see, I immediately shoot off a prayer, “Oh Lord, please let it be OK!”

It wasn’t OK, the screen was cracked.  Oh my gosh, that is not good.  Matt 6-26

It’s a touch screen laptop so the screen is important for more than just seeing what is happening.  Upon closer examination, the screen is not only cracked but it was stuck like it was being touched so it had rendered the computer useless.

I spent much of the next day exploring options to get the laptop fixed.  There were high points, one place said they could fix it for less than $200, phew I could swing that. And there were lows, other places said it will probably cost more to fix it than I had spent on it.

I finally reached the conclusion that it was not worth repairing…..but I was in the middle of facilitating an online book club and being without a computer was not an option.  I spend half of my week in KC with my dad so I had to have a mobile computer.

Where am I going to get the $600 to replace it?

After discussing it with the farmer (my husband), he told me I just needed to buy a new computer, “I am sure we will figure something out,” he said.  About that time the door bell rang and he left.

I continued to stew about having to spend the money on a new computer…..

30 minutes later the farmer walked in with a check in hand.  He handed it to me and said, “Here you go, here is the money for your new computer!”

He then headed back out the door saying, “God always gives us what we need.  He just bought your computer for you!”

The man at the door had stopped by to see if my husband had anymore alfalfa seed.  He had bought some from him a few years ago and just thought he would see if there was still some available.  The check was for seed which had been sitting in the shed for almost 3 years.

The check was for $600.00.

I sat down almost in tears.  “Man, Lord, why do I continue to do anything besides trust you?” I spent a few minutes just praising our most gracious Lord for His continual faithfulness!

Whatever you are experiencing in life, no matter what transition it might be, NEVER forget God Comes Through In Big Ways!

Please share below an experience where God came through in a BIG Way for you.  I am looking forward to praising the Lord for His faithfulness to you too!







My Blog is named unearthingHope because sometimes it takes some digging to find.  I started writing unearthingHope to share my journey of faith and hope through many, many though life transitions.

Finding clarity in my faith, led to hope even in the most difficult times and that hope gave me the Peace that passes all understanding.

 2 Corinthians 4:3-4 is a verse which I have taken as my calling:

3Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, 4who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.

No transitions are not fun, but the comfort of God is available to us while we journey with Him through those transitions.  If, we learn to look at all of life from a place of Faith and Trust in our Lord then even the most difficult transitions are bearable.

We often get stuck in the questions of why.  Only Faith and Trust will help us go on without those answers.

Our Father is faithful.  If you do not know that yet, then I pray my stories will help you find hope, which can lead you to more faith in Him and his Goodness.


As you read my blog I would love to hear from you.  If my story helped you see yours from a new perspective or if it gave you hope in future peace it would be a blessing to hear from you.  Please leave a comment below the blog post or email me at Rayna@TakeHeartCoaching.comPsalm 107:2

Blessings to you,

Rayna Neises

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