Review by Rayna: When God Doesn’t Fix It: Lessons You Never Wanted to Learn, Truths You Can’t Live Without
Most of us know Laura Story from her beautiful songs. What I love most about her songs is the vulnerability of the lyrics and her way of sharing truth, it touches us all.
I was excited to see that her book is more of the same.
I was amazed and encouraged by her willingness to share her struggles and heartaches. Life has been full of ups and downs for Laura and her husband, Martin. This book is a look into some of the things Laura has learned about God during this season of her life.
Laura starts the book reminding us that all of us are just one phone call or major event away from life change we never imagined. In that moment we think life as we know is over. The truth is life as we are yet to know is just begun.
I appreciated the way in which Laura ended each chapter by stating a Myth she had believed and the Truth which God had revealed to her through her life.
I believe that every Christian struggles with many of the myth’s Laura shares and would benefit a lot from hearing the Truth Laura learned about each one.
One of the most meaningful parts of the book was when Laura challenges us to make a list of why questions. When I listed all things I would love for God to tell me why they happened it was pretty long. Laura goes on to instruct us to write down all the answers to our whys that God has given us.
I was encouraged because I was able to write a few answers but….there are a lot of my questions still waiting to be answered. Laura admits that most of her why questions are not answered either. She is quick to remind us that God never promises the answers our whys.
She then reveals that making the shift from the question of why to how has made all the difference in her life. “Man asks why, Jesus asks How. Man says, “Why did this happen? Jesus says, “How might my Father’s Glory be displayed through this situation?” Learning that God’s Glory can be displayed in spite of our circumstances is a life changing truth.
Throughout the book Laura also shares her struggle of sharing her story when there is no pretty bow wrapping it all up. She encourages us all to step out and share our story even in the messy middle. God is working and hearing what he is doing in others’ lives brings great encouragement. The number of people touch by Laura’s honest struggles and her songs about them has continued to blow her mind. You can encourage others too.
Be brave step out and share how God’s Glory is working even in your messy middles.
These are just a couple of the nuggets of truth I found in Laura’s writings. I know that you will be blessed and challenged by reading this book too.
Laura closes her book with these powerful statements….
Share your story.
Give God the Glory.
Live a Better Broken.
How have you found peace in God’s answer to the HOW questions in your life instead of staying stuck in the whys?
When was the last time you were distracted, totally freaked out and incapable of accomplishing the task set before you? Just a few weeks ago I was right there; totally overwhelmed, frustrated and distracted by my environment. I couldn’t accomplish the task at hand!
I was driving my regular 220 mile trip to Kansas City to stay with dad, when I had a tire blowout! That was scary. When I got out of the car to look at the flat, of course it had to be the drive side back tire.
I drove a short distance to find a safe place to change the tire but there was no such thing. I had to just do it! When I got out, I was discouraged even more, there was only five feet between my tire and the white line. Not to mention the cars and trucks were flying by at more than 75 miles per hour shaking my car as they passed.
I got the jack and tire iron out to try to break the lug nuts loose. I don’t know when the last time was you changed a tire but holy cow those things are on tight.
As I struggle to loosen the lug nuts I could hear trucks and cars coming toward me and I would look up in fear. I was not able to focus on what I was doing.
I got back in my car and call my husband and he gave me some tips to get the tire iron to stay on the lug nuts in order to be able to loosen them so I got up my courage and got out of the car again.
I took a deep breath and said to myself, I can do this, I can do this.
As I bent over to start trying again and another car came flying by, I just couldn’t focus.
I was so distracted, I kept looking up and thinking of all the terrible things that can happen if a car or truck were to come over the 5 feet and hit me.
Then I realized I can’t do this… I can’t do this if I’m worried about getting hit by a truck.
Finally, I just said, “OK, Lord you got this, you know what’s coming and you know what’s going to happen, so I’m just going to trust you! You have got my back and I’m going to focus on the tire.”
This scripture came to mind (not word for word but I remembered reading it not too long ago),”Both riches and honor come from You, and You rule over all, and in Your hand is power and might; and it lies in Your hand to make great and to strengthen everyone.” 1 Chronicles 29:12
Then I put my head down and I focused on breaking those lug nuts. I did it! I thanked the Lord and went to work on the next one!
Just about that time a nice gentleman finally stopped to help me. It was so wonderful to have someone take it care of it for me. Trusting God first then praising Him for providing some much needed help.
As I reflect on that experience I think about how easy it is to be distracted by all the what ifs in life; what if I don’t succeed, what if this doesn’t work, what if I don’t get the job, what ifs and fears are around us every day.
Here are a couple of things I do to quiet the what ifs….
Memorize Scripture. Here are just a few scriptures to help you remember God’s sovereignty.
Proverbs 16:9 “The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.”
Genesis 50:20 “As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today.”
Second Chronicles 20:6 “O Lord, God of our fathers, are you not God in heaven? You rule over all the kingdoms of the nations. In your hand are power and might, so that none is able to withstand you.”
Take a deep breath and look at your situation from a different perspective.
WebMD.com states, “Deep breathing is one of the best ways to lower stress in the body. This is because when you breathe deeply, it sends a message to your brain to calm down and relax.” When we are able to calm down and relax it gives us time to let the truth of scriptures come to mind. This can give us God’s perspective and help us to focus on the here and now not the what ifs.
There are always a million things that could go wrong but we serve a God who knows it all! We serve a God who loves us more than we can even understand! He knows what our future holds so as we start to focus in on the task that he has given us, we can trust him to take care of everything else.
What do you do to quiet the What Ifs? How are you trusting God to take care of things you can’t fix, things you can’t control or tasks set before you?
Nancy is a 62 year old writer, teacher and soul care coach, married to Jim for 41 years. They live in a beautiful wooded subdivision near Madison, WI. They have two grown children- Adam (daughter in love, Joanna) and Elizabeth and three delightful grandchildren – Nora 3, Audrey 2 and Jay who is 9 months.
Nancy has struggled with depression and will share with us how she is transitioning into a new place in life with her depression & healing.
What was the most difficult part about your transition?
Currently, I am working on the healing of depression which I have gone in and out of for the past 20 years. I always thought that if I just did a little more or found the right medicine or the right therapist that I would be “cured”. And I have finally discovered, that while my depression ebbs and flows, it is a part of me to embrace and learn about its gifts, which has been a huge transition. I think acceptance has been the hardest part of my transition.
What did you find most helpful in this transition?
This last fall, at a retreat, God met me personally with the verse, “Are you here for some healing?” from John 5:6. I was so startled because that was exactly why I was there. Over the course of the weekend, He continued to minister me personally, reminding me, “Daughter I know your name, “ and “You are blessed to be a blessing.” I came away from that weekend much more healthy and whole as well as hopeful, knowing that God had me nestled in His arms.
That weekend has been a turning point in knowing health and wholeness in my depression. In spite of flares that may occur, God is right there, holding my hand, whispering in my ear, “Daughter I know your name.” I am working on accepting that He’s the one doing the healing, leading and giving me hope. I look for ways I can be grateful. I don’t have to work so hard or be frustrated when things don’t turn out the way I would like. He is able and I am to rest in that.
What would you like to share with others going through this transition?
I would encourage you in whatever reoccurring trouble you face to keep focused on the God who loves you more than you can imagine. When I keep my focus on Him, I find the peace that passes all understanding. It is a daily process and some days I certainly do better than others.
He reminds me that He has my right hand. For I hold you by your right hand— I, the Lord your God. And I say to you, ‘Don’t be afraid. I am here to help you. Isaiah 41:13.