What interesting thing are you going to do with your lemons?

You have heard it said, that when life gives you lemons just make lemonade. maya angelou quote graphic

I found this quote by Maya Angelou and I like it even better, after all I love lemon pie.

Back on topic….

It seems that some people find it easier to make something of the lemons of life than others do.

Lemon meringue pie, lemon bars, lemon shortbread cookies or lemonade, it isn’t important what you make.  It is important that you learn to make the best of the lemons life hands you.  The best way to do this is to Change Your Thinking!

I can see your eye roll now.  I know it sounds too simple.  But think about it…..

We have all experienced something difficult in life at the same time someone we know or love has been right there experiencing it too.  Did you both respond the same way?

You had the same parents and upbringing as your sibling/s, do you remember it the same way?

You and your coworker lost your job the same day the business laid you all off and closed its doors.  Did you rebound the same?

Why is the same event experienced differently? 

When life hands us a lemon the questions we ask ourselves will determine what happens next.  Marilee Adams, PHD says that the questions we ask ourselves determines our actions and finally our results.

 

I’m not saying just think positive and everything will be fine.  I have lived life too long to believe it is that simple but I do think how we think is an important part of learning to live with peace and hope no matter what life brings.

 

So what interesting things are you going to make with you lemons?  Do you need some help learning to think differently about life’s lemons?

Don’t miss my upcoming opportunity to learn more about how your thinking impacts your relationships and success at work.

I would love to have you join me as we explore Marliee Adams, PHD concept of Question Thinking during the month of August.  I will be highlighting Question Thinking and then offering a workshop opportunity on how to make this powerful shift in your thinking.

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How to Navigate Life with a Personal Manifesto

      During life transitions just making simple decisions can cause you to become completely overwhelmed.  We often try to function on autopilot, unfortunately instead we just get pulled in whatever direction the crisis is that is right in front of us wants us to go.

Wandering aimlessly then causes more frustration because the things that are most important to us get neglected.  The overwhelm gets worse and worse.

Writing your personal manifesto can make all the difference in seasons of transition.  There are lots of different ideas about what a personal manifesto is and how to create your own.

In general, it is a written statement which includes your core values.  The great thing about this statements is it might not be true today but you desire for them to be true of you in the end.

A personal manifest functions as “your own personal code of conduct that is not decided in the moment but predetermined before you are in crisis.” states Kathi Lipp in Overwhelmed.

To write your personal manifesto you will want to take some time to think about what is most important to you.

 

When you think of your most treasured values you think of things you want to always be true.  Identify 5 to 8 core values and turn them into statements that will provide guidance to how you will live them out.

Everyone says they love God first then family and then their job.  But do most of us don’t live that way?  Writing manifesto statements help you to think through what it looks like when you do live out your values.

I also found it helpful to put myself in the future and think about what I want people to be saying about me when I am no longer here.  I want to be true to who God made me to be and the mission He has put on my heart to live out.

 Here is my Manifesto:

(Note: I decided to put my manifesto on this picture of me because I love this picture.  It reminds me that these words are about the REAL me.  I have printed it and hung it on the wall of my office so that I will not lose sight of these important values.)

Some of these statements I am living out pretty well today but might become more of a challenge tomorrow.  I think that developing your personal manifesto will also help you live out your life with intention.

 

When you face decisions, whether they be, can you add this commitment to your calendar? or are you going to do business with a specific person?   Your personal manifesto can help you make that decision quicker and easier than before.  It is almost like making decisions before they are even presented.

 

Can I help teach Sunday School at church?  Well, it is helping others to learn of my Daddy the king, and it is offering encouragement to others BUT will it interfere with being the best wife to my farmer or daughter to my daddy?  At this stage in my lifetime is very valuable.  I already have a lot on my plate so though it is a good activity I must say no for now.

 

Using my personal manifesto to govern my calendar and life will be a tool I look forward to using for many years to come.  It represents the me I want to be every day.

 

I hope you see the value of developing your personal manifesto. 

 

 

I would be happy to talk with you more about how to identify your core values and develop statements that best incorporate those things which you are most important to you.  As a coach this is one of the first steps to helping a person move forward toward the life they want and a lot of fun!

 

 

I would love to see your Personal Manifesto!  Please share them with me at TakeHeartTransitions Facebook page.

 

Have You Accepted the Free Gift?

I love gifts, how about you?

If you have studied love languages at all then you might know if your love language is gifts or not.

Mine isn’t but I still love to get them.  No matter if gifts fill your love tank or not the Gift of Jesus will!

It is so amazing to me that God choose to send the gift of His Son to earth to save us.  It seems so easy yet it is so hard for many to accept….  Have you accepted God’s Gift?

What is it about accepting gifts that makes it hard?

 

I find it easy to accept a gift from someone I love and who loves me.  It can get a little awkward when I don’t know the person well.  Could that be part of the hang up?

Do you know God? Have you studied Him and understand how much He loves you?

If you have and would like to learn more I would love to talk with you.  Just contact me at Rayna@TakeHeartCoaching.com

 

Me Royalty?

Me, Royalty?   You must be mistaken.

You are the daughter of a king, right?

King, what king?

King of King and Lord of Lords.

Oh, yes, He adopted me.  I guess that means I am royalty too.

Have you accepted the fact that you are royalty?  Embracing your royalty is the first step to learning to view yourself as He sees you.

 

Precious, cherished, lovely, righteous, treasured, wise and forgiven.

What other words would you use to discribe how God sees you?

1 Timothy 1:17

“All honor and glory to God forever and ever! He is the eternal King, the unseen one who never dies; he alone is God. Amen.”

How to Live In Unrestrained Freedom

Each week as I drive to KC and back to stay with my dad for the weekend my dogs accompany me.  I have a Boston terrier named Molly who loves life.   She is full of energy, life and adventure.  She loves life on the farm but enjoys her trips to see grandpa too. Miss Molly

We drive 3 hours to pick up grandpa and then another 45 minutes to his home.  By the time we get there she is ready to run and be free.  That much time in the car can be hard for anyone to take.

Molly jumps from the car, runs to the top of the stairs in a flash and then waits for the door to be opened only to run to the back door to go outside and wait some more for me to open it.  She is so excited to get outside and see what there is to experience. 

Freedom is an amazing blessing.  Are you enjoying the freedom you have in the Lord as much as Molly enjoys the freedom of running free?

Christ has set us free to live a free life. So take your stand! Never again let anyone put a harness of slavery on you. Gal 5:1(msg)

When you think of a harness of slavery what comes to mind? The longer we live the more challenging it can be to let things go.  Changes in life can leave us with habits that draw us back to a place where we put back on that harness of slavery.

Sometimes I give up my freedom by putting back on the harnesses of my own expectations, guilt, or even anger.  Living free is so much better.  I don’t know why I don’t choose to take every harness to my Lord and let Him take it on and free me.  That is why He came to this earth, to take it all for me.

The passage goes on to tell us how to live in freedom?

13 You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love. 14 For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” 15 If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other. Gal 5:13-15(NIV)

These verses make it very clear that we must live in love for one another.  I’m not sure why is seems so difficult to live in love.  Showing love for those around us who are willingly walking in sin is a challenge for me.

Are we walking around with our own harnesses on and calling out for others to drop theirs?  Some sin is more easily seen than others but sin is still hanging us up from the freedom He called us to.

The next time you are feeling the harness of slavery think about Molly running with all her might into the yard, enjoying freedom, run just like her to our Lord and let Him give you His freedom!  Living in unrestrained freedom is just what God has planned for us.

How do you live free?