I need to get some of this weight off, how about you?
Gaining weight as we get older is something I think most people struggle with. I had been letting a little creep on year after year and it had gotten rather ridiculous. I knew I needed to pay more attention and do something about it for a couple of years now.
Some of you may know that my dad is suffering from late stages Alzheimer’s and he requested that he stay in his home as long as possible so close to 4 years ago my sister and I were faced with a new season where he could not be alone at home at all. We had to do something.
In order to honor his request and to provide the best care for him my husband and I made the decision that I would spend half of my week with him 220 miles from our home. This was not a small commitment but it was one that I felt had to be made.
That being said, when I thought about my weight and trying to find a way to release some of it . Here are 2 different conversation I had with myself:
2 Years Ago~
Do I need to lose weight? YES.
Will I feel better if I lose weight? YES What can I do to lose weight? NOTHING. I have no extra bandwidth and I just can’t worry about every little thing I put in my mouth. It will just have to wait.
BUT this Spring, I changed my questions.
Do I need to lose weight? YES.
What if I tried this plan that my friend is on? MAYBE, I could do that.
Will I like drinking shakes 2 times a day? I don’t know, I usually only eat 2 meals a day now, I think I can do shakes. It will be nice to not have to think about what I am eating at least.
Can I do 1 meal at 4-600 calories only? DOUBT IT… at least I can try. If I go over it will be better than what I am doing now.
Can I give up all the things I love? NO but I think I can give this a try and just see what happens.
Why have I been able to drop 35 pounds in the last 4 months? I am still taking care of my dad, though it is only every other week, so I don’t have a lot more bandwidth than I did at this time last year.
The key is, I asked different questions which lead me to a new answer.
I started in the same place but I had a new option to consider. That one new question changed the questions that followed. I was also more open to new answers because of the new question.
How can question thinking help you find new answers?
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What are you wearing today? Why? When you got ready to get dressed this morning what caused you pick out what you have on today?
If you are anything like me most days I do a pretty good job of dressing myself considering what my day has in store for me. I usually consider the weather, if I will be doing anything special and even what I wore last time I saw the people I will be seeing that day.
Do you think in questions?
I would have said no when I first heard that question and about Question Thinking by Marilee Adams but the more I think about it I realize I do, in a way.
When I stand before my closet a ton of questions come to mind.
What is the weather supposed to be like today? HOT.
Do I want to wear pants or shorts?
What shorts are clean?
Will I be working in my office all day or do I have appointments? If I’m in my office the air-conditioning can cause me to be chilly at times something I don’t have to worry about if I am going to be running errands or going to an appointment.
What shoes do I want to wear?
Comfy or cute?
Will those shoes go with these shorts?
The questions go on and on.
So yes, I think in questions much more than I realized. One reason I had not realized how often I think in questions is because I usually just hear the answers in my head not the questions. Since I usually just hear the answers I thought was thinking in statements rather than question. How about you?
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Finding HOPE While Living with Loss
Loss has visited close to home recently. From a good friend who lost her mom to a dear friend who lost her battle with cancer. Loss is difficult for everyone.
How do we find hope in the midst of loss is a difficult question to struggle with? I have experienced hope during loss in a couple of different ways.
Sometimes there is hope even after loss when there is also new life.
The birth of my grandkids brought some hope even in the season of grieving the loss of my own children through miscarriage.
Their little lives brought joy and laughter even through the time of sadness. I have also had a new a new dog bring hope and comfort when I have lost my best dog friend.
Most often I have experienced hope after loss through encounters with my Loving Father. Some of the greatest losses in my life have been followed by hope filled experiences with God’s love.
When my mom passed away, though she had been sick for 12 years, it seemed like a shock. I was not ready to let her go.
She died on a Saturday evening and the next morning while worshiping and grieving during church service, God blessed me with the reminder that Mom was worshiping that morning too.
She had been nonverbal for at least the last 8 years of her life (due to Alzheimer’s disease) so the thought of her standing at the feet of Jesus singing praises to Him face to face brought amazing comfort and joy.
The grief was made more bearable with the reminder of where she was that morning and for eternity yet to come.
The second time I experienced God’s great comfort was just a couple of years ago, when I was still struggling with the grief of losing my only children by miscarriage.
It was a difficult struggle for years, there were so many unanswered questions. Why would the Lord let me get pregnant only to lose my children before they ever got to take their first breath and experience my love for them.
I had so many hopes and dreams. Being a mom had been the desire of my heart for as long as I could remember.
Again, the Lord graciously reminded me that their death was not the end of their life. They were safe with Him and my Mom in heaven. When that truth came to me the overwhelming peace that followed was beyond description.
I had struggled for so long with questions and confusion regarding this loss but all of that became unimportant. They were ok and I would meet them someday, peace & hope replaced all the anger and confusion that had just been there.
Today as I grieve the passing of my friend and grieve the disappearing of my dad, I find hope in the character of God. I know that God is Good.
I know that God loves me no matter what happens in this life, and that truth motivates me to hold on to HOPE today and the many days to come.
How do you find Hope, even in the midst of grief?